Recently I was talking with this person that I know, but am not that close to, yet they felt the need to vent and apparently had no problems letting me into their world. I will call this person "A" as I do not want to violate their privacy. Okay, so A was upset because A's adult daughter has turned out to be gay and has told A. Well, A thinks being gay is a sin and was pondering aloud to me- how could my daughter be gay?! WHY?! A said that A did not believe people were born gay so A thought something must have made their daughter gay. A then said that the thought had occoured to them that some female might have touched their daughter while she was growing up at some time when A wasn't around. Perhaps when the daughter was at with a babysitter or at school or at camp. A didn't have any proof of this as it was just one of many ideas she had came up with in an effort to understand what could possibly have caused her daughter to be gay. A then admitted something to me. A said that when A was a child some of A's cousins who were the same gender and relatively the same age as A, had touched A sexually. A said that it had bothered A and A told them to stop and left and told the adults. A said the adults punished the cousins. However, A then told me that although it was wrong and gross, A did not think it was uncommon for kids to do this with their relatives because they were just kids and didn't know any better. A was confident they had watched their daughter as best they could, but they could not stand over her constantly and A was concerned that this might have happened to A's daughter when she was a child without A's knowledge. A says, however, that A's daughter denies having ever been touched sexually by any of her relatives and she denies being touched sexually by any female or male until she was in highschool and she says it was all consensual. The thing that gets me isn't that A's daughter is gay. Gay isn't as uncommon as some people think. I know a lot of gay people. What really struck me is that A said during A's childhood, A had been touched sexually by relatives, children themselves at the time. Really, I don't think they were little kids as in 5 year olds, but I take it they were prob. preetens from the way A let on. This is mostly assumption though, but A did give me some details that made me think this. Now, we do live in an area where most of the people are kin to each other and I know kids do sometimes do things such as "playing doctor" with each other growing up, so given this area, and the lack of non familial kids to play with maybe it isn't that odd or uncommon, but it just seems so sick and disgusting and shocking to me and I wonder if something was wrong with A's family. A seems perfectly normal to me, though. Just a bit on the conservative side, which irks me, but it isn't like we're good friends, so I don't have to deal with that! Thoughts?