heya chipmunkgal ug, sounds like a very familiar question for me. i have not read any previous posts but i hope i don't repeat much of the stuff.

are breasts that important? to men in general? to your fiance? to yourself?

i have come to find that some men think that breasts are important. but this is only an illusion, breasts come second when you deal with a person who you have been looking for and understands you. i also believe that breasts (even when they could be considered "abnormal" by medical standards) turn very beautiful on a person like this.

what comes to your fiance, you have to ask him.

the most important thing here is you - what do you think of your breasts? you said that you felt embarrassed to have sex with your fiance because you feel you have lost your womanhood. there are many more things that make you a woman. and i would like to think that your fiance finds those things in you, and doesnt get turned on by the sole fact that you are a woman.

perhaps this website would help you. it is a gallery of normal breasts of all kinds. http://www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php

i'll tell you something i went through. i always thought my breasts were weird and too small and god knows what. i also found out that i was right - i have underdeveloped, hypoplastic breasts. if you google it you will find out it is a bona fide medical condition. although i cannot be diagnosed with hypoplastic breasts until i get pregnant and start producing milk and find out that they really wont grow from there. i don't really believe there is much hope, though

what it came down to was that i started thinking of cosmetic surgery. but i also have had weight problems a lot, i have dieted as long as i remember, developed an eating disorder and only recently have started eating healthy. i realized that having the surgery wouldn't change a thing - i would still feel insecure and bad about me and that im malformed or something. there would be something else that i would grow to be unsatisfied with.

what i needed to realize that i am me, not the lady on the beauty magazine. i am loved for who i am, not resembling that lady. i am unique and loved for that. i don't need to fit to any beauty standards that the media tries to force upon us.

people are beautiful, each and every one.

these are some thoughts i hope you will think about, chipmunkgal, and perhaps relate to yourself. it is a huge lesson to learn to love your body, especially after something as stressing as losing 70 lbs! but when you get the hang of that "love yourself as you are" thing, it is so rewarding.