Bless you Tatyana, and Tamale. I am not some mean psycho! I am close with his kids, and I never refused to look at pictures of them! He says they are crazy about me and that I have made a huge difference in their behavior. They used to fight like cats and dogs and now there are boundaries in the house and no more hitting. we just went thru a wonderful Xmas day all together with my son also. I am divorced too, I understand the need for reminders in the household. That plaque was a very sentimental thing and I did not understand after the amount of time gone by. I do care for him and his kids very much, that's why I am so worried about these things. These exes still try to contact him and are one by one being told he is taken. I know he is trying. Tatyana, your story is very similar and is inspiring to me. Thank you for the kind words. (hugs)