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Dec 31, 2009, 01:07 AM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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He will do it all again.
I'm sorry....but that is true. You say that the man you love is back but he will not stay for he has not learned the appropriate coping skills to prevent himself from flying off the handle again.
His behavior is most definitely linked to his bi-polar disorder, but there is also free-will and choice in there as well. I applaud him for getting into a program, but he has a long way to go.
You don't need me telling you that a parent giving drugs to their child, even if it's a step-child, is extremely out of line.
My sperm donor gave my brother drugs when he was 12...my brother then went on a 10 year binge of drug abuse and self destruction. There's no guarantee that my brother would not have discovered drugs somewhere along the line...but he definitely did not need the helping hand from his father. 
Just because you split up with him doesn't mean it's over. You have an opportunity to make a life for yourself and your children....a safe life where they won't have to be damaged by his issues. While you are doing this, your husband can be working on his issues and taking care of his business. You can still support him from a distance while protecting your kids. And if/when he shows that he is ready to be a partner and a parent, then you can invite him back into the family environment.
Please, take it from someone who grew up with a bi-polar father. If you make it to easy for him to not get better....he won't. 
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