You are very welcome! Glad could offer some support.

Yes, it is similar. However, I did not have to deal with exES. 'Only' with 1 ex (who could be compared to 100...). She is self obsessed. She used to even try to tell me how to behave with my BF and in her own way (manipulative) encouraging me to leave him. Then I figured out what she was doing (I remember one day her phone calls to his house got obsessive with 5 calls to his kid when she saw the kid that day, and then I picked up the phone while we were having dinner and it was her again. I just said 'again?' and she started shouting at me 'you are not letting me talk to my kid etc etc'. I told her that she is being rediculous and I do but she is calling us 5 times in one day... I passed her to the kid. My bf then called her and had a go at her in talking to me like that and poisoning the kids against me. She likes - sorry - loves - drama...) Anyway - around that time or just before that incident - I set some boundaries around her and she did not like it. I have nothing to do with her now. She hates me for not letting her come into my house (we live together now) and for not letting her telephone here (only his mobile). She brain washes the kids and tells them (they told me that this is what she says) that I am stupid and pathetic. I know she is angry because I do not let her have it her own way. To control him, me and the kids. I feel sorry for her.

Having said that - without my bf being very persistent and strong about this - it could have never worked. So your bf should elliminate all those exes out of his life. You are two and should not be room for anyone else but his kids.

I know you give them a lot and care. That is something to cherish! Its great they love you back xxxx