oh part of me wants her to be all apologitic...but that doesn't solve what happens in the future, t made this suggestion of being more pro active and that was good it was coming from her...now i feel because i have to bring it up becausE she didn't do it...that if she does say, oh sorry i,ll make sure i do it next time...The spontaniaty has gone...but if i don't tell her how disappointed i am... Well...its a bit of a double bind...what would others do in this situation?...i feel i shaLl say to her that now i's rather her not do it bwcause of me having to ask