Hi Melba,

how about just saying to her that you thought her saying she needed to be more proactive meant you might hear from her during the holidays. And that you lookd for an email from her each day, and were disappointed when none came.

I think it is always a good idea to let our T know how they affect us, even if it means being vulnerable in ways that are uncomfortable. If you don't, it will likely just hang there between you and muck things up...