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Old Dec 31, 2009, 12:55 PM
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Shangrala Shangrala is offline
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The truth is known that, of course we are a product of our environment, whether or not it's a good thing depends on each given situation, and those involved.
As I've aged over these years, I've noticed more of my parent's traits emerging from me..most good, other's not, though I try to focus on the good, regardless.

What positive I've learned from my mom the most is the art of diplomacy, and the honor in honesty, (though that took me years to obtain).
I've inherited her artistic skills, which I've found great pleasure in.
The negative of her's that's seeped into me is the occasional "doom" thinking, which I'm so working on removing. I dunno. It makes me wonder...IS depression inherited? Her view of herself was very depressing, even though she attempted to project into us kids the contrary...how, true value comes from within. Her beliefs and actions, (toward her own self), spoke much more loudly, though.
Mom had only one sister. She had a horrible childhood and was forced to be the adult of the family. Growing up during the depression only compounded her miseries.
Her dad was an alcoholic and her mom was a pathological liar. We never met her dad, and only met her mom twice, (both times not very pleasant..for any of us).

What positive I've learned from my dad the most is how physical activity maintains a healthy body, and playfulness nurtures a youthful spirit. That one is never too old to behave young at heart, yet to maintain a reasonable balance of the two. He's taught me that the true value in life is the bondings made with others, and not the materialistic aspect.
The negative of his is influence, i think, is the avoidance of what's personally unpleasant. To tuck it away....deep.
Dad was an only child and was seldom alone. He was somewhat spoiled..lol. He had a good childhood. Both parents were devoted to a sound family structure. Despite that they resided in another state, they both spent as much time with us kids as they could. They were terrific Grandparents.

Between the both of my parents, I think they did a great job teaching all us kids the value in respecting privacy and to realize AND acknowledge our individualism, (which I'm sure later came back to bite them due to how much I truly did practice my own individualism).

Any inherited traits you'd like to share?

Shangrala
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