I cant help but writing this: As I was reading your down your post I got more and more a picture of how you (probably without being aware of this) are drawing yourself back into the dysfunctional stuaff that you want to stay away from...

Look how she got you in a state, thinking again and again - did she? didnt she?!

My advice would be to stop thinking like this. Does it matter? In the end of the day - you chose to distance yourself, you texted, you got a voice mail back. You know this is the truth and what happened. The rest is just non-sense. Her non-sense. Not yours. So forget the whole thing and put it down to 'her stuff. not yours'. I hope you can see what I mean?

You know, some times when we identify our condition it opens a door to healing and self awareness. People who are around us and are dysfunctional or are used to certain interaction with us - may not like this change and insight. So they up the anti. It could be that this is what your mum is doing. It is probably out of awareness. But it has the potential of drawing you back into this unhealthy game. It only leads to your frustration and your needs are not met again. So take a step back. Draw the line.

I hope this helps in any way x