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Originally Posted by skeksi
It must have been very difficult to say what you needed to in those e-mails and then not get the response you hoped for. But I wonder if it feels safer to do it in e-mail than in person or via telephone (because I know you have difficulty getting to in-person sessions right now). The best way to sort out disagreements, confusion, and conflict is directly, via conversations. So much can get lost or distorted, on both ends, when contact is only in writing. It seems like every e-mail you two send gets things more tangled. You're clearly upset about this and I hope you are able to get this sorted soon.  |
i am a big wuss when it comes to confronting people so that is why i did it in email. i got the idea from this forum.
i do find it a whole lot easier as i hate to ever give people negative feedback. but youre right that it isn't ideal. i think some of our email communication has been fine; it's been more what she's said that was the problem. i can't imagine telling her in person that i need her to apologize or take responsibility. i'd sink into the floor.
i am really realizing how much i don't say. i've always known that was a problem but i had no idea until PC how much people share concerning their feelings in relationships. i am a bit emotionally clueless. no wonder therapy has never been that helpful for me.
