Zen,

As a voice of experience, one is better off single than married to the wrong man. It is really ok to be single & independent. I would have been better off if I had stayed that way & many other women feel the same way. Men & children aren't the storybook fantasy they are made out to be.

I think that when the right person doesn't come along in our life it means that we need to learn how to be satisfied with life as we have it & live it to the fullest.

All your wonderful traits are good for with good friends also. I know there is a desire to be close to someone, but if it isn't the right someone. It can end up in serious anger & other issues in the long of it isn't the right person we marry.

My suggestion is learn how to be happy with yourself, content with your life as it is. Funny thing is that usually when you get to the point where you are happy with your single life....that is usually the time when the right person comes along.

Most important thing is to be happy with ourselves where ever we are at in life & that happy shines & people are attracted to it.

You will be ok,
Debbie