So I have been having bad dreams about some abuse I never talked about. I mentioned the bad dreams to my T who said that along with my wanting to cut again, means pain, probably around past abuse, and asked if I am going to let it control me or if I can just let it go. In the meantime I am switching like crazy due to the stress of even bringing it up and she is acting like I can just let it go and move on. Am I the one who is hanging on to this stuff or is she being clueless? I honestly don't know how to just let it go, I can't control the dreams or the memories. I seem to need to switch which she is totally unaware of and some of us find it humorous which also helps us cope and not react while in T. But is it possible to just choose not to let this stuff bother us? I have come a long way but have still talked little of the abuse and do better writing it down so I won't react emotionally. But can't seem to let it go, I can put it out of consciousness for a time but eventually it creeps back in. What can I do to let this go?