((((((Zoombug)))))) Frearfulfrog had a very good practical point: have your husband or exhusband or what he might be talk to your care providers. Often it helps if a professional delivers the message because it's hard for an injured family member to take it from the person who hurt them, intentional or not. Bless you, I hope that all the others years of your marriage count for something, because that certainly doens't sound like you tend to do thus type of thing. Hang in there , dear. Will be thinking about you.