Hi all, Thank you for your support.. To give some more detail is tough but I'll give it a shot.

This person is my husband's sister. He has a difficult relationship with her too. She seems to always have power of every gatherings,conversations, and just down right manipulative. To give you an idea she always uses the kids to get to us.

A prime example is if I put a boundry of how often i go visit their family (for my sanity and safety) she will have one of her daughters call me and ask me to come over.(kids are 4 and 2 1/2.

There are several different reasons for this difficult relationship. I know the best thing to do for me and my system is to stay away. But i'm not sure if that's worth the sacrafice of letting go of my nieces.

thanks guys...i really appreciate the help and advice!! Not sure what I'll do yet. But i'll keep ya posted