She doesn't dot her i's like my T and she sounds like her too! But my T doesn't live in your state, LOL! I can understand why you're confused. I thought it was okay to feel ALL feelings, but just not to act on them. Then, in CBT or DBT, you examine your thoughts to see where they are twisted.

My T is harsh with me at times, and I don't understand why she has to be that way, either. Sometimes she is just frustrated with me, I know.