A couple of people here lately have mentioned their T's NOT taking responsibility for things. I'm wondering if that really IS the norm (as some people have implied), or not...

My T always takes responsibility for his part in things. Always, always, always.

Recently, we had a big scheduling mess, and I was upset about it. We were talking about it in session and T said "I REALLY want to defend myself..." but it was like he couldn't or something...it made me wonder if it wasn't allowed. He finally couldn't stand it anymore, and he did defend himself..and when he explained what happened, I *got* it and we were able to move on. I'm glad that he was honest and did defend himself that time...and I wonder why he was so hesitant to do it?

I do love that my T is always so willing to look at his responsibility, because it makes it feel safe to bring things up that I'm upset about. And he somehow manages to do it without me feeling all guilty that he's taking responsibility. AND it's good, because it makes it feel safe for me to take responsibility for my part in things - both with T and in real life.

What does your T do?