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Originally Posted by farmergirl
I think that is what your t is saying to you. Your taking what she said as a guilt trip is your response to something that she didn't intend to be taken that way. She didn't intend that to be the effect of what she was saying. She regrets that you took it that way, but that is your response that you have to deal with.
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farmergirl, i don't think my T intended to manipulate me but i believe she did none the less. just because someone doesn't intend harm doesn't mean it hasn't happened. an extreme example would be how a drunk driver doesn't intend to kill people on the road but if they have run someone over and the person dies they have obviously harmed that individual nevertheless. i don't believe everything is a matter of perspective--some things are true. am i being a bit picky about all this? sure, but when people don't take responsibility for their stuff and try to pass it off as mine or rationalize it away i get quite annoyed. it is a huge pet peeve of mine. granted, i probably need to be a lot more gracious about it but i'm in the middle of working this thru right now.