Matt C,
I am a female, but in the same situation as you are. I am married and my hubby doesn't want sex and hasn't for over 7 years. We've tried many things, but to no avail. I am on Zoloft and it took the sex drive away for many years, but the past two years it's become stronger. The past year is even worse. I began a new job and am attracted to the boss, so therein lies my problem I believe. He talks to me, listens to me and tells me things my hubby doesn't, like I'm pretty, etc.
I am a Christian and will remain faithful to my husband no matter what, even if I have to change jobs. But I too, would love to find a way to get the sexual urges to stop. If hubby was willing, I could have and enjoy sex at least 2x's a day! Really!! I know that's hard to beleive, but I am a very loving, physical person to begin with and I love the connection we get with lovemaking. And 7 yrs is a long time!! ROFL!
Best wishes to you and your future.
BTW, what are your age's? How busy is your GF's life? I am 47, I work full time and have a home-based biz.
My best to you both!! Cat