zen, i remember reading one of those silly dating advice books years ago but it did have one suggestion that i think was a good one. it suggested trying to make 6 friends of the opposite sex, just friends. the number is obviously arbitrary but i think taking the pressure off and just learning to be friends with guys might really be a good place to start if you haven't had much in the way of male friends before. then, if one of those friendships turns into a relationship great. if it doesn't then at least you have a friend.