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Originally Posted by Belle1979
Little update 
Mark has started a facebook account - never was iterested before and as a photo of her and him on it. It just killed me to see it. He was so private when we were together and now he's advertising to the world that he's with her. I feel like I never knew him at all. It was like being kicked in the gut once again.
He's coming to the house tomorrow to pick up the stuff he left behind and to get rid of his rubbish. I don't know if I should be there or not???? I don't really want to see him but I do want. Such mixed emotions right now.
I was doing okay until the facebook thing - it's just he's rubbing my nose in it just to hurt me. I want him to be hurting not me.
New Years eve was okay, did do much but went to the movies with a really great friend. My problem now is that I think I am giving him mixed signals too and I don't feel ready to be with someone else not to mention the fact that I don't know if I love him like that. I don't want a rebond relationship that will ruin a wonderful friendship..
Today I have realised that I just need to get on with my life and not worry about what Mark is doing. He can be as happy as he wants but in a way I don't think he has really changed who he is and will revert back eventually.
Why does this sort of thng happen to really good people? |
I think you should keep your distance from the house while he is there. I don't think there's any good that can come from it. He's been incredibly insensitive throughout all of this, almost to a level of being childish. Opening a new facebook account and plastering that picture up there reminds me of high school type antics. I know how you feel about not knowing him. So many little things can be hidden for so long that add up to be something much bigger. I feel that same way about my ex and I have no contact with her at all, makes me wonder how you can handle it all to be honest.
I agree it's important for you to set proper boundries with your friend. I believe you are too fragile at the moment to really think out all of the implications of rushing into a new relationship. If you guys are great friends, I think it's best to keep it that way at least for now. Hopefully he can understand and accept that. If not, you have to wonder what his motives have been all along.
You're right, and I know it's hard to keep yourself in high spirits during times like this. Just know that whatever type of artificial happiness he has found will fade in time. He will come to terms with losing a wonderful girl and be kicking himself in the *** about it for years to come. You still have a clean conscience, which in my own opinion is one of the most important things a person can possess.
Hope you're doing well today.