I'm still trying to figure that out... I'm not sure if she and I just have communication errors... or translating errors... When things get tumultuous (sp) between us, we're both like 2 ruffled birds, each trying to make sense of the event and the other, but still never quite getting there. I get pretty frustrated, and I sense she does too. But when I pointed that out, she said she does NOT get frustrated, and that I am simply transferring my frustration on to her. Which makes little sense to me, as she frowns at me. I don't get it. I've never heard T say anything like "I'm sorry" or "I take responsibility for that" or "the fault is mine". She usually says things like "As you know, scheduling in the evening can be rough, as things do come up." Or "Gee I was really hoping the front door would be unlocked for you, but you just never know around here." Or even "Kiya!! It's like I'm KILLING you!" (when we were in our rupture and i was soooooooooobbing).

Tree - i am so glad your T is as awesome as he is!!!