yes T always takes responsiblitys...some threads where its "inplied" a t is neglectful or hurtful I stay away from because A/ it could well be a case of transference that hasnt been worked through, B/ The poster is sufferiing from a PD and is acting out by seeking attention by posting a negative post...you can sort of tell whose a regular poster and whose just popping in and out with the same negative posts...I'm afraid patience isnt my strongest asset in those incidences..when so many others are really trying to work things through.