I' ve been wanting to stay out of this, but something's been bothering me.

I have to agree with the suggestions to not hit and to say "not now mom, please" instead.

But I am confused by the double standards. Why are so many saying "I would be laid out flat if I'd hit a parent" and then saying "don't hit" ?

I realize it's a "do as I say, not as I do" situation but it sends that mixed message of " :smack across the face: don't hit your brother."

It seems to me that mom and daughter should go see someone together. Mom is trying to be close, daughter is rebelling, mom gets frustrated, takes away privileges, daughter gets ticked off and rebels even more. Vicious cycle.

Mom obviously cares, or she wouldn't keep trying. She's agreeing to counseling, she's agreeing to medication. She's trying to set limits and enforcing restrictions when the limits are overstepped.

If it's possible, I'd try to stop being the rebellious teenager with every real and imagined mental problem under the sun and put as much effort into making things easier as you do chronicalling how much your situation stinks.

If you really were "mature for your age" you'd realize that, instead of coming up with every excuse to remain the spoiled teen who should get away with everything instead of sucking it up and facing the consequences of acting out.