Something disturbing happened to me at about age 10. What I discovered during therapy and telling my former therapist about this was that my emotions about it were stuck in the past. So, yes, intellectually I knew I wasn't to blame for what had happened, but emotionally...even then being an adult...I was still feeling like a 10 year old would. So I think perhaps part of "catching up" your feelings about something from your past with your intellect now in the present is coming to an understanding about this fact. A child sees themselves as the center of the world, so anything that happens to them in their eyes must be their fault. As adults, we know that certainly could never be the case with any vulnerable child, ourselves included. It was helpful to me to express the child's emotions during that time and process the hurt and guilt in order to find my way to a more adult understanding about it. The child's voice needs to be recognized and heard. In that, I could "mommy' myself and take care of that child and reassure her that she wasn't to blame...that she wasn't bad... I even wrote the little girl a poem, which ended up being very healing for me.