Thank you for your reply.

Not seeing a therapist, hoping to get that organised in the new year.

This person nearly sent me into a meltdown. I said no to his visit but he came anyway. Then he had car problems when he went to go, had to bring him to store to buy tools to fix car. I was psychotically angry inside but managed to conceal it I think. Got back he fixed the car. Then came back inside and dawdled for a couple more hours. He ignored EVERY cue and boundary to go home. I was raging inside and felt extremely violated. My boyfriend was at work after all.

I felt he knew how much I wanted him to go I got up and started to do housework and take calls but he still stayed and tried to help me.

Then he feigned phone problems. I thought I would go mad. Weather was snowing and I think he was hoping to be snowed in with us another day or two.

I badly needed my space. Do you know what I mean...For every forced social encounter I would need at least a few hours alone to mentally recover.

I was assertive to him but he deliberately ignored it all. I was determined not to explode for my boyfriends sake and I managed not to thankfully.

I cant stand my privacy boundaries being violated.