Michele:

I'm going to post this to you just to give you some information. Please know that I am not suggesting that you should do this because I want you to be SAFE over and above anything else. OK?

As you probably know, I've been divorced three times. Each and every time, I walked out. I got out as fast as I could. Each and every time, I left most of the value of anything we had accumulated together, sometimes being married 8 years or more, I simply abandoned the house and most of what was in it. All I could think of was getting out. There was no reason for it because none of them were violent or anything. I just wanted to get away as fast as I could.

My question to you is this: Not knowing the background of your relationship, was he on the lease before you? Can he take your name off the lease? Why can't you ask HIM to leave? I know you are not working. But why can't you get public assistance to pay for rent? Or, why can't you go see about getting it now and start making arrangements before he "puts you out"? Or, can you work? Would there be any way you could work to pay the rent? I just don't want him throwing you out of a place you might deserve to stay in.

Next, does the car belong to both of you? If he's working, why can't he buy another one? Why does HE get the car? That seems stupid to me. Honestly, if I was you, I'd cool things down and then take the car to a locksmith and have the keys changed. Or, put a steering wheel lock on it until he agrees to give you the car. Do you have a friend who can help you do this stuff?

Please, please, please. Do NOT do any of this if it is going to put you in any danger. If he has ever laid one finger on you, DO NOT do any of this.

But if I had my life to do over again, I'd have done a lot of things differently. I wouldn't have walked away empty handed as many times as I did.

Please stay SAFE.