wow. lots of replies here. i agree with pretty much everything mentioned, including the fact that my mother would never have tolerated that behavior from a two year old...if i'd tried it as a 14 year old, i'd never be allowed to see the outside world again b/c i'd be grounded for life.

that said, i think you should remember that respect goes both ways. you want your mother to not hug you when you're mad, to do this and do that, yet you hit her, throw tantrums when she disagrees with you, and you refuse to follow her restrictions when she disciplines you. you can not expect her to respect you when your behavior to her is so devoid of respect. i wish you luck with your mother. i hope everything works out... but if you want her to listen to you then you might want to start listening to her.

-shadow