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Originally Posted by hangingon
I wonder if your T was not doing that to stiffle your emotions but more to help you recognize that what your sister was doing to you is not healthy for you. That you need to consider yourself and not allow yourself to thrown by what your sister is doing.
Perhaps because that is not your responsibility but your sisters. In other words you can't make your sister change, she needs to change on her own and you should not carry that guilt. Maybe your T wanted you to be aware of that. Just some thoughts.
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Hangingon, i think you are exactly right, now that I think of it. She did say that my sister is an adult and has to get help for herself. I don't think she wanted me to feel responsible for what is gong on with her now, nor what happened in the past.
Simcha, I have not confronted her yet..I see her next week. I don't think I will "confront" her as much as tell her how hurtful it feel when she threatens to hang up on me when I am only trying to get help from her. There has to be a better way to communicate that she thinks I'm in emotion mind and I need to step out of it. It creates an even bigger spiral if she says she won't listen to me and in that tone of voice.
Rainbow, I have been wondering if we have the same T! Does your T have two i's in her name that go undotted EVERY time? LOL