Clearly you feel lost. Probably also angry with the way he behaves and the impact it has on you and the relationship. It sounds like he has a serious anger issue and that he is lacking some basic skills of communication and trust. How can you possibly have a serious relationship with someone like this? You cant!

I think it is very important you stand your ground and do it safely. In other words - he can act like he acts but you should rise above it and put it down to his issues. It really has nothing to do with you. So do not let it bring you down or make you think its your fault. It is not!

If you feel that the best thing to do is leave - make sure that you make the arrangements you need to make for yourself. Do not involve him in this. If you are scared then contact the police and explain your situation or talk to a counsellor.

It seems to me that unless this guy understands for himself that he has a problem - he would carry on this way and maybe even get worse.

Keep strong and cool and let us know how you are doing. xx