Is she talking about anything in particular when this happens, Blue? Or does it just happen periodically? Therapy is hard work and a lot of concentration and deep thinking is involved. Maybe at times it is overwhelming for you or you need to let your mind breathe. Or maybe what she is discussing is very painful for you. Could be lots of things...

I find this topic interesting because very often in the beginning of therapy, I was staring at former T's shoes. If there was something very deep and revealing, I'd crumple in the chair and close my eyes. Closing my eyes actually helped a lot for a while. As I got more comfortable with him, I was looking more and more. One thing he did which I appreciated greatly was give me moments of silence...sometimes for even an entire minute. It was helpful in allowing me to gather myself and find my words. This is often when I felt very strongly connected with him. I'm not sure I would have liked being forced to refocus on him before I was ready to. I'm a slow-moving person who needs time and no pressure. But I know everyone needs something different. I suppose as long as the T knows what we need and what works best for us then that is what matters.