I'm not saying that her mother should give up on her, for Pete's sake! I'm just wondering why her mother isn't reading her right. Her mother should KNOW or have caught on that hugs isn't what Miss_A needs. Maybe Miss_A has a good REASON for not wanting to be hugged. There may be abuse in the past, there may be a reason that Miss_A might be tactile defensive, and the list could go on.

Again, kids aren't BORN SPOILED. Why do so many say that Miss_A INSISTS on acting spoiled? Because someone MADE her that way and at her young age she doesn't KNOW ANY DIFFERENT!

I didn't learn to change some of my own warped defensive mechanisms until AFTER my mom died. I was 38 at the time.