ouch....I always had a hard time with "constructive criticism" I never understood the constructive part of being hurt with words.
But you're also right...once the emotional side has reacted and settled...its possible to go back and rethink the words said...who they came from..and why....sometimes they werent meant to hurt. but its hard when one is so sensitive.
Yeah I have a a hard time with the "I" statements....I never felt "I" mattered so why would I start off a sentence with it? It was always more important what "you" thought,felt,etc....
My therapist was the first to "make' me use "I" to put a value to myself. I despised it and it was extremely awkward.
Yet on the other hand...I agree when in an argument or on touchy ground...you'll disarm someone much easier starting with "I felt..." or whatever ...than "YOU made me...." Its not so confrontational or "attacking somehow...but no I dont think "I" is always appropriate when considering someone elses feelings....after too many "I's" you sound rather self centered dont you think? Just my opinion