Matt,
Thanks for the sypathetic reply.
I know what you mean when you say others don't understand. It's not just about sex, the orgasms.. if it was anyone would do. It's the connection, somehow becoming one with the other person as you enjoy being together in a way that can't compare to anything else.
I've tried telling hubby this, and he says he agrees and understands, but he just doesn't feel the need for sex, he doesn't feel any sexual feelings for me or for anyone else.
I trust him and I know he is not cheating. He is retired, almost 52, and stays busy with volunteer work near where I work. He comes by for lunch with me, we talk and share things.
He has health problems that cause some of his problems. I do understand and all, but I can't help what my body wants.
I know what you mean when you say we love those that we aren't always compatible with in every area. Which is understandable and to be expected, but this is a "big" area to be mismatched in, wouldn't you agree.?
Maybe ask your dr about Zoloft instead of Prozac. You lose the sexual desire, but it doesn't make you emotionally distant. At least, that's the way it worked for me in the beginning.
Have you asked GF if there is something she would like to try that's different or some where she'd like to try that's different? Variety can help. Ask her to share her fantasies and you share yours, but remember, don't either of you be judgmental. Think about things before you say yes or no.
Will keep you in my prayers. Keep the communication line open, too!
LOL Thanks for the comfort of sharing!
Cat.