TayQuincy, that sounds like a very difficult phone call with your T. You wanted support but got reprimands.
You said you called her in the morning and I'm wondering if it was right after your sister called at 3 am? Or was it later in the day when your T would have been awake? If the call was at 3 am, I am wondering if your T was disgruntled from having been awakened? I think if she doesn't want to handle emergency calls from her clients during off hours and weekends, then she should have a message directing them to a crisis line or an answering service. I think that would be better than reacting the way she did when you reached her on the phone. Maybe she should know her own limits better and set up a support system for herself (such as referring clients to a crisis line) so she doesn't get resentful if clients call. I hope some of these things will come up when you speak with her at your next session.
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She is always encouraging me to feel my feelings, so what happened here?
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It almost sounds like your T is giving you the message that it is OK to be in "emotion mind" when you are with her in session but not on the phone. Ouch. I think this would be really helpful to discuss with her, to see if this message is indeed the one T is intending to send.
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As I understand it, my tears were from emotion mind insted of wise mind so she didn;t want to hear it.
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So tears from "wise mind" are OK but tears from "emotion mind" are not?
Aren't tears just tears?
Is there another way to let the feelings out besides calling your T? Can you talk to a friend or a family member? Write in your journal? Cry by yourself? Tears are the body's way of relieving stress, so even crying on your own would probably help a little.
I hope you have a good talk with your T about this. I also hope your sister can get some help from others in addition to you.
