My T always takes responsibility - in all our years together we've only had two really big epic failures on her part (we've had minor misunderstandings but they've usually been mutual.) In the first case, we did a lot of work around processing my mother's death, right before Christmas, and then T left for a 4 week vacation. It left me an absolute mess - talk about feelings of abandonment, and I started cutting again, after 15 years really badly. When I told T about it, she was completely apologetic saying she should never have started the work knowing she was going away or she should have at least spent some time helping me deal with the abandonment issues. Now she uses it as a case study in what not to do when she's training other T's. LOL I'm a case study.

More recently she pushed me to far in an EMDR session - much farther than I wanted to go, and I indicated that I wasn't ready. I wound up dissociating really badly, and hurt myself again. When I told her the next week, she was totally apologetic.

I like the fact that my T can admit when she's made a mistake.

--splitimage