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Old Jan 03, 2010, 10:44 AM
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Originally Posted by Persie View Post
Shame, guilt, embarrassment, are not always a bad thing, they show us the limits of our behaviour. You now know what your limits are, what will hurt you and make you feel bad about yourself. Use it as a guide and not something to beat yourself up about.

You are one of the lucky ones, some people have no shame, guilt, etc. Honestly, think of it as a blessing in disguise...you can move on now to a better life.
Wow, Persie, that's very insightful. As awful as it feels, these feelings may indeed help me onto a healthier path. Before meeting my husband, these behaviors were exciting, fun, and made me feel cared for. Although I felt a twinge of those feelings during the situation, I was left feeling all these awful emotions that I never felt when I was younger. That does give me some hope that I can change this. It doesn't seem like it will be an easy task. But it's one that I will have to tackle because I don't want to feel this way, that's for sure.
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