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Originally Posted by sunrise
You said you called her in the morning and I'm wondering if it was right after your sister called at 3 am? Or was it later in the day when your T would have been awake? If the call was at 3 am, I am wondering if your T was disgruntled from having been awakened? I think if she doesn't want to handle emergency calls from her clients during off hours and weekends, then she should have a message directing them to a crisis line or an answering service.
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No, the call to t wasn't immediately after my sister called. I called T around 11am at her office during working hours. I can call her anytime, and reach her through the answering service in the middle of the night if i need to, but I have never done that and probably would never do that.
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It almost sounds like your T is giving you the message that it is OK to be in "emotion mind" when you are with her in session but not on the phone. Ouch. I think this would be really helpful to discuss with her, to see if this message is indeed the one T is intending to send.
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My T does not encourage me to cry tears from emotion mind in session either. I am rarely in emotion mind in session though, but if i was, she would help me to use DBT skills to get myself out of emotion mind. I think the reasoning is that if i am crying and hysterical because I am thinking something that is not true or not based on reality, then that is the time to distract what I'm thinking about and not feel those feelings that result from that thinking. The problem for me is that i wasn't able to recognize the difference at the time, and her reaction was hurtful, not helpful. I am going to ask her if she can direct me to use skills in those moments and help me recognize emotion mind crying instead of getting mad at me and being harsh with me when I am dysregulated.