TayQuincy, first off a bunch of for you.

I'm not familiar with DBT, and I'm not sure what emotion mind is, but I think you have a good plan to tell T exactly how the phone convo made you feel, and then ask what she would suggest you do - that way, you'll put her in the role of offering helpful advice, and maybe your T will then realize that's better for you than reprimands. Good luck!