I have debated on whether to post to this thread or not, but have read it as it has grown and grown. First, I think there is never a time a child should hit a parent unless it is for self protection in a life threatening situation. With that said, I have wondered about some of the things that had been said by Miss A....... "my so called parents", "why is it my Dad that understands?", "why is it my Dad that raises his hand?", and the posts about her Mother always cleaning and getting on her nerves (a different thread) etc. It seems from the posts, that Miss A and her Mom certainly would benefit from therapy together, but I guess I am from the "old school" here - since when should a 14 yr old girl talk about her Mother getting on her nerves? Punch her Mom? What happened to respect for your parents/elders? As some have pointed out, perhaps she was not taught "respect", but does that give her free reign to not respect? I personally think you (Miss A) have issues that you certainly need to address with your T , and your internet addiction is one of them, as well as your anger issues. IF you were abused, and that is why you do not want to be hugged, I hope that is something you are addressing. If you simpy don't think you need affection from your Mom, then that should be addressed as well. My Mom is 78 and lives in an addition to my home. She is my best friend and we do almost everything together. I will be totally lost without her when that day comes. She and I would have the wonderful relationship we have, had I been mean, physical, and pushed her away when I was your age. Please look into yourself and figure just why you don't have a relationship with your Mom ....before its too late. Good luck and I hope your holiday has given you and your Mom some GOOD times together.