*warning for the eight yr old only purple words for her.*
Wpowers,
I first want to say
to
Mick form hsiW and
Little One 
...what a good idea, making a lovely card for T. The other parts give a card or gift, so you can too 
We smiled and chuckled throughout your post and felt warm hearted...what a lovely relationship between the child and T. We did experience a similar warmth (not to brag) but to say there was a definate 'daddy thinking' but in a new way of seeing. Our therapist has the nicest, friendly warm, squinty-eyes and gentle smile for her and the other children. She is 3 and really well-adjusted (t says). It too is a very safe and healthy relationship between the two, in a profound kind of way and we have many journal jottings and memories of times in therapy together.
Later, the clarity came for more of the alters, including Wish. First, she didn't know who the heck he was, friend, foe, boyfriend (yuck, she says), parent's friend or what!?! Lately though, she perceived him quietly to her other therapist as like a Dad, "but don't tell him", she said. (Wish here: I am warming to him as a father but what the ? Not sure what for...!?! ....and the kids...they are allright
)
No matter what alter brought something to our therapists they received graciously thankfully as we are not fond of rejection either.
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Originally Posted by wpowers
Ok fellow DIDers... therapy question.
My Little One who is 8yrs old - female - the gentle and innocent and happy part of me (well, usually happy - always tries to maintain a bright outlook) today told me that she picked our T as her "new" daddy.
This has come about after a memory recall in trauma work that solidified some of the "sad" feelings that little one has had for years. Things done that should not have been done. And so Little One decided that the "bad daddy" was no longer "her" daddy and she has determined that she wants T to be her "new daddy" ....
Little One wrote something in the journal about it saying "I wish Dolphin ( that is what she calls T :-) ) was my daddy because he is nice." T read this and smiled. He has very excellent communication with Little One and it really helps our whole system to feel "bonded" and "safe" with T in a very healthy way.
Today Little One decided she wanted to make T a card saying "Thank you for being my daddy" ... It is cutsie in a kid way. But it was very honest from her (that part of me) . I want her to give it to T in our next session. But I was not sure how he would take it.
I have a very deep internal fear of rejection.... That fear is largely managed / handled by my angry teen alter Mick. She does NOT see T as a father figure at all - or anyone for that matter. She still doesn't accept she is me. Which is another topic. But that fear is there.
I think T will be kind as he always is and accept the symbolism Little One is using along our path of healing. But I wanted to know if anyone else has had a similar experience along this line and what they did or how T responded?
Thank you bunchies!!   |