Hi, I am reading this and dont feel I get the whole picture. I agree with what the others said and they raised some good questions that I think only you can answer.

I learnt that when people seem aloof to others around them, those around may interpret this aloofness in all sorts of ways. The question is - why you wont let people get close. Or, on the other hand, what areas of your life you should be developing to be able to feel more confident and more free.

Maybe the ring situation was just that people noticed it and found something to talk to you about to try and get closer?

From what you wrote I could not understand if you actually want female friends or prefer being a loner?