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Originally Posted by NuckingFutz
Hello Garden! It looks like you could use a few friends! I read over this thread a couple of times and it seems kind of hard to understand some of statements. What you wrote seemed disjointed. I know you have a sister but that you didn't get along. You had friends but they started to treat you bad...did you ever ask any of your ex friends why they stopped being your friend? Of the people who said you were a bad influence, did they explain how you were a bad influence? Maybe if you let us get to know you a bit better we can find out together just what is going on...this one has me stumped.
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Hi. Yes I did ask and got laughed at as though the question was part of David Letterman's top 10 countdowns. The bad influence was because I wasn't a married person and my friends at that time were married. Their habits of wanting to do things without their husbands was not good,but the husbands thought it was me. I was the one person who said to the friends and husbands that I was not going to be a scape goat for any of them. One person did tell me just as Fuzzybear said, that I thought too much of myself (ha)! I had another friend to tell me that she had no idea that I shopped at a certain store and she did think that I was of the same caliber as someone as herself. At first I laughed until I realized she was serious. My thinking is, everystore has a sale . . . if I liked, it fits and I can afford it I buy it.
I am not an instigator of meanness. My only outlet while growing up was crying and I've learned to use concealer very well on those dark circles. I don't cry so much now but hope and hope and hope. The only thing that I can think of is that I don't take the nastiness anymore.
Example: My husband doesn't like repairs. I'm good with tools so I'm trying to spruce things up and improve the kitchen. One person says to me that my cabinets didn't need replacing that I wanted to replace them. I answered with what difference does it make if I want to change cabinets? It my home. The person began to snip and squeak at the pictures on my progress. Shortly after she began loud-mouthing me about how I looked and what she thought of how I looked. I have allergies and besides the swolleness, I was red and had watery eyes. I pulled as much courage as I could and asked her if I could blow my nose in her shirt. Then the grapevine word was "she's dirty, I wouldn't eat nothing she baked. blah, blah". I'm in the ladies room brushing my teeth and the comment comes, I'm not going to use that bowl all while I'm rinsing and and spitting inthe toilet. It's not true, but the untruth is spread. This person was a buddy, at lunch and sometimes at my lunch, asked for rides, etc.