Okay everybody, (including myself)
I think this thread is becoming a "runaway thread", maybe it's time we all give it a rest.
I see some heat coming off of this thread, due to the fact we all have different opinions, support, and suggestions, which is normal, but I'm seeing some going "back and forth" with what they feel is the right way, maybe the only way, some don't agree that kids need to learn respect and have boundaries, discipline rather verbal or physical, etc.
None of us are perfect parents or perfect kids, but at the same time, kids should not be allowed to punch their parents, and kids need to respect to get respect.
Heck, I know there are some will disagree with that too.
I guess the point I am trying to make is that this whole thread is straying from the original post. I think the best for Miss A and her parental problems is that they all take up with a mental health professional, counsellor or therapist, whatever one wishes to refer to.
My only wish with this post is that Miss A gets professional help, and keeps out of trouble, so she can grow up, be healthy and enjoy life.
Many of us had horrible teen years, we do get through it, there has always been teens and parents, from the begining of time, and yes, many made it through, and so shall Miss A.
Thanks for listening to my ramblings, I'm glad I am not a teen again, it is a hard period in life and thank God we do get "old", ha!ha! Just my own opinion,based on my own growing experience, coming now from a "cranky, middle aged" woman.

Sincerely,
DE