I can't trust the man.

It's just little things, but it pisses me off. I caught him in a lie about taking the dog out at night. He didn't want to take the dog out before bed tonight and he said, "He's gone many a night without going out." Usually I am asleep when he takes the dog out and when he comes to bed, I say, "Did you take the dog out?" He says that he did and I ask why I didn't hear the door. He tells me that he closed it quietly.

First of all, he never does anything quietly. So I have teased him in the past about telling a lie and if he is that I hope the dog chooses his side of the bed to pee.

Tonight, I said, "Aha! I knew you weren't taking him out!" After a bit of defensiveness, he said, "Well, it's just easier to tell you I took him out than have an argument about it."

I have suspected little lies so that he doesn't have to deal with reactions to things. he has asked me to lie to his parents before so they don't give him trouble about things, I get calls from the mortgage company, etc. even when he says that he paid. (He will not give up the check book so that I can do the bills. He has said that he will leave it home and when I go looking for it and call him, he says that he forgot and left it in his coat pocket.)

So what I want to know, is what else is he lying about? I wonder if there are big things that he is hiding from me.

So what is this thread doing on a bipolar support forum?

I am triggered and somewhat paranoid, so that doesn't help.

I am so totally at the end of my rope and at the moment he is at the heart of my bipolar paranoia.

ETA: And he went to bed angry at me.