I'm really not trying to argue or cause drama or anything to that nature, I'm just really wondering why the parent(s) get 100% of the blame... Although I do agree the parent(s) get MOST of the blame, I do believe a 14 year is old enough to own up to their own faults and learn how to fix them. I also believe that, from personal experience, 14 year olds shouldn't have to just see/be taught respect from their parents in order to give respect. Sure, it's a big part that you need to learn from parents growing up, but by the age of 14, you're around other people who show respect and teach respect and can easily learn it from them. I have no doubt Miss_A is a wonderful person, I've seen many of her posts and she seems like a nice young lady. BUT, she does need to take responsibility for her own actions and continue getting the help she needs. If she hasn't seen positive role models and hasn't been taught respect by positive role models, maybe her therapist could be a good person to teach her such. Again, just my personal opinion and not trying to start an arguement.