T's do not apologize. I do not know why, but it irritates me too. Because they are all about [me] taking responsibility for my stuff, but somehow anything they do in therapy is somehow also [my] stuff.

The biggest concession I have ever gotten from my T with regard to things I know she's done wrong is:

from her: "I know that I sometimes make mistakes but I also know I am not a bad person." (I suppose she was modeling that for me, but it felt more like her being therapeutic than like an actual apology.)

and also she has at times managed to admit that if we are both part of this relationship, any problems can't be ALL my fault.

But you're right, it's like pulling teeth.

-Far

Bleech to all T's. Bleech, I say!