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Originally Posted by moonrise
Blue, I think I *do* need to bring it up because it really does bother me. But I'm scared to have the rejection and the answer. If I don't ask, I won't hear "no" - you know??
Echoes, thanks for the explanation. I think what's hard is that I'm not comfortable talking about my fantasies and thoughts like that yet.
Ripley, I like the idea of asking why she prefers not to answer. It might turn out that she will, if I can articulate my reason for wanting to know.
WP- your T sounds awesome. I'm feeling very slow to warm up to my T, but am not in crisis. And she's clearly stated that this therapy is going to take some real time.
Elliemay - my T is a pdoc doing psychodynamic therapy, as well. I like the positive way you look at it.
Farmergirl, brightheart, gravvy, I love hearing about different T's and how they work, especially when they're so different than mine. I must admit a twinge of envy when I hear about T's sharing things, because I think it would help me see T as more human, more 'real'.
I think I'm going to try and bring this up tomorrow. Or next week. I wish I had more backbone!
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I would try to bring this up if you can, if your T is psychodynamically oriented, my guess is he will definately be interested.
I know I may be unusual, but I can't tell you how much I have learned about myself from the attributes (totally unfounded) I have ascribed to my T. With each rupture and repair, or fantasy we've looked at how I view him in the context of my past, and used it to identify problems in how I relate in general in the present.
It was very hard I will admit and I did try to bring his personality into the therapy room (I think that is normal) in the first phases of therapy, but looking back over the years, I see how much he really cared about me and my therapy by keeping himself out. I'm grateful for his discipline in that regard.