Jan 04, 2010 at 01:11 PM
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Originally Posted by BlueMoon6
I find with my own children it is not easy to be consistently validating about every sentence they say to me. I try very hard and do the very best I can, but sometimes I want to say, "oh, c'mon! Enough!" I do the very best I can to listen to everything they say and listen for the feelings behind what they are saying. To be there and to validate, but it is work.
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Ahhh, the balance between your needs and theirs. They are both important. Maybe when you are feeling that you have had enough then it is your turn for the care? Our children need many things but we can't spoil them too much. If we make things too perfect for them we can actually handicap them when they get out into the world and the world doesn't make things so perfect.........
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