((((((MUE)))) sorry I am late to your thread.

You know, as a young person I had my most bizarre sexual encounters while in therapy. As a matter of fact, almost all of the bizarre and inappropriate things I used to do were while in therapy. It is a path, it is a process of learning what we want and what works and what doesnt work and what does and doesnt feel good.

You are newly single, this is a big deal. What will feel good and safe to you as a single person now may not be the same things that worked beofre MUE was married.

I see this encounter as a positive actually. I see you putting your toes ini the water again! Go you! OK, maybe it wasnt the best place in the pond to dip your toes in, but I see it more as an experiment in who MUE is now. Does she want casual sex with a friend of the family? What about another relationship? What about an actual date?

So...my take on it is...there is really nothing to beat yourself up about. At all. Your testing the waters. You arent comfortable being the old MUE with sex, so then, what/who is the new MUE? How exciting to be in that place!