Thanks Bloom and Tree I was surprised at how much of an issue these other people in my family have been to me. It keeps coming up over and over. And ftt really gets it why they have been an issue for me. She clarified so much. I looked the other way about so much of their behavior and now that I see things so much more clearly I can try try try to not blame myself.

Things are far from perfect with H, but not arguing with me about time spent in therapy is a big deal. Phew!